Finding Love Beyond Words
This course teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” It explains the common experience where talking about our relationship can make things worse.
This course sets the stage for good communication by focusing on the different ways men and women connect. When we appreciate what our partner needs to feel connected and meet that need, closeness and connection naturally happen. Good connection then creates good communication.
Recall the ease with which you and your partner shared your hearts with each other when you were dating. You were emotionally tuned in to each other. You responded helpfully in whatever way your partner needed. And you did all this without a lot of effort. Why? You both felt vitally connected to each other. You had a good connection and therefore good communication.
Over time that feeling of connection can erode. When partners feel disconnected, trying to talk and solve problems is difficult at best. The solution is not so much to improve your communication but to do the things that reconnect you with each other. Many of these do not require talking, but they set you up to talk like you did when you first fell in love.
The genius of this workshop is that it teaches how to stay connected. You will gain insight into what your partner needs from you to feel connected and how to give her or him that. You will learn the routines of connection that keep, as a daily reality, the spring-like freshness of the love you first experienced.